Yes, Valentine’s Day is a “Hallmark” holiday but does that mean it is not important? The answer depends on how you “love, honor & respect” your spouse on the other 364 days a year. My opinion may not be popular but I believe that it is Biblical.
Consider these words from 1 Peter:
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. – 1 Peter 3:1-7 (NKJV)
8 And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.” 9 Be hospitable to one another without grumbling. 10 As each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. — 1 Peter 4:8-10 (NKJV)
Yes ladies, we are supposed to submit to our husbands…even if they are not a believer. However, if your husband is asking you to do something that is contrary to the will of God, it is right & good to do the will of the Father instead. Inward beauty and a quiet, gentle spirit are far more important than fancy clothes and fine jewelry.
And gentlemen, you are to live your day-to-day life in a manner that shows your wife that you love and honor her above all others.
As a couple, we must decide every day to love our mate. True, long-lasting love is a choice, not a temporary fire-hot emotion. Any relationship worth having requires work & commitment. The marital relationship should supersede ANY other human relationship. In other words, your spouse should be more important than your parents, your siblings and yes, even your own children. What better way to raise your children than to show them what a God-honoring marriage looks like. Just as we need to spend time in The Word & on our knees to cultivate a strong & healthy relationship with our Creator. We must nurture the relationship with our spouse in order to honor God and demonstrate “perfect love” to our mate.
So I ask you, does your Valentine wait all year for one magically romantic day or do you demonstrate that love 365 days a year?