We all know that we are not supposed to play favorites because in doing so we tell others that they are unimportant or unloved.
If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing right. But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as lawbreakers. – James 2:8-9 NIV
…for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. – Galatians 3:27-28 NIV
Consider the example of the pain that favoritism caused in Abraham’s family. Have you experienced any of these things in your own family?
Abraham and Sarah favored Isaac over Ishmael.
Jacob was favored by his mother, Rebekah but his brother Esau was favored by their father Isaac.
Jacob favored Rachel (his second wife) over Leah (his first wife).
Jacob also favored Joseph over his other sons.
What a mess!
My husband and I have tried very hard not to show any type of favoritism between our son and daughter. Sure, there have been times when we each have felt closer to one or the other of the kids but feeling closeness is not the same as favoritism. If they ask me if they are my favorite, I can say with confidence, “you are BOTH my favorite”